Love & Relationships

Raw Chapter No. 012 I used to think that if I missed someone that meant there was more to come. Thinking of them, remembering good times or asking myself what they may be up to...I wasn't over them yet. Now I know that you can miss someone and not want them in your life. You can miss the person they used to be. You can miss the person you used to be. Or you can just miss someone who at one point felt like home. Memories are tricky because we tend to only think about the good

Raw Chapter No. 011 I think its funny that we never talk about falling out of liking someone, only falling out of love. You can love someone and not enjoy spending time with them. Love them and hate the way they act. Love the person they were and struggle with who they are now. And I think what's sad about that is you still have love for them. They just lost your admiration. I think its easy to overlook when someone loses your admiration in a relationship. Communication, fait

Raw Chapter No. 010 Which is why I think its true that you can meet the right person at the wrong time. Maybe nothing happened. No cheating. No lying. No betrayal. Its just that you both came across each other at a time in your life that you weren't able to provide what that relationship needed. One of you may of been healing. Maybe one of you was creating your life and didn't know how to fit someone into it yet. Or maybe you both wanted the same thing but just not at the sam

Raw Chapter No. 009 Why potential can be harmful in a relationship. Not that there's anything wrong with having faith in another person. It's just that at some point we begin to overlook what they do day in and day out. And focus on what they COULD be. We start to imagine all these things. They'll be an amazing boyfriend once they open up and communicate better. She'll be my ideal woman if she gets over her ex. Things will change when they take the relationship more seriously

Raw Chapter No. 008 "If you love someone you will find a way." Is that true? Love won't teach someone how to communicate. It won't build trust if its not there. It won't make them vulnerable. Or allow you both to be compatible or even love one another enough to want the same things in life. Which is why I feel that love can make some relationships hard to leave. If they didn't love you it would be easier. But sometimes they do. They still love you and your tired. They still l

Raw Chapter No. 006 Sometimes… We miss our normal. You know, the morning texts, the person to call when you just want to talk. That familiar face, Friday night plans, the person who knew your order without you having to speak. And because none of those things tend to last, we end up fooling ourselves into believing we miss them. Sure we do. But what if we’re really grieving the life we built surrounding them? There’s a difference. Loneliness loves to edit our past. It filters

Raw Chapter No. 005 Somewhere between wanting peace and actually get it, I realized peace isn’t always peaceful to obtain. Sometimes it’s uncomfortable as hell to get there because the second you refuse to be available 24/7…understanding every time…accommodating every request…and swallowing your differences to avoid conflict… somebody is going to be triggered by a boundary that you set. Normally we glorify protecting our peace like it’s some sort of elevated spiritual process

Raw Chapter No. 004 Somewhere down the line we began to tell ourselves that potential should be rewarded the same way consistency is. It shouldn’t. Potential is wonderful. Sexy, even. It’s what fuels hope. It’s what makes hope possible. It is what makes us dream about what can be. But potential has also given us access to stay in too many peoples lives way longer than we should have. We fell in love with the person they could become. We built entire futures with people who pr