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Raw Chapter No. 006 Sometimes… We miss our normal. You know, the morning texts, the person to call when you just want to talk. That familiar face, Friday night plans, the person who knew your order without you having to speak. And because none of those things tend to last, we end up fooling ourselves into believing we miss them. Sure we do. But what if we’re really grieving the life we built surrounding them? There’s a difference. Loneliness loves to edit our past. It filters

Raw Chapter No. 007 I feel like we’ve made closure sound like something that happens. One last conversation. One last explanation. One fair apology. One moment where all of the sudden everything makes sense. It just doesn’t work like that sometimes. Sometimes people leave and don’t explain why. Sometimes they lie. Sometimes they make you feel like it’s your fault. Sometimes they vanish. And sometimes…the closure you deserve never comes. For years I thought closure was somethi

Raw Chapter No. 005 Somewhere between wanting peace and actually get it, I realized peace isn’t always peaceful to obtain. Sometimes it’s uncomfortable as hell to get there because the second you refuse to be available 24/7…understanding every time…accommodating every request…and swallowing your differences to avoid conflict… somebody is going to be triggered by a boundary that you set. Normally we glorify protecting our peace like it’s some sort of elevated spiritual process

Raw Chapter No. 004 Somewhere down the line we began to tell ourselves that potential should be rewarded the same way consistency is. It shouldn’t. Potential is wonderful. Sexy, even. It’s what fuels hope. It’s what makes hope possible. It is what makes us dream about what can be. But potential has also given us access to stay in too many peoples lives way longer than we should have. We fell in love with the person they could become. We built entire futures with people who pr

Raw Chapter No. 003 "Who decided there was a rulebook anyway?" Don’t text them first. Wait three days. Never give them the impression you like them. Play hard to get. Who even wrote these rules? They make finding someone harder than it needs to be. At some point honesty became strategy. We aren’t asking ourselves how we feel about someone. We ask how we should appear. Am I showing too much interest? Will they think I want something too soon? But what happens when you actually

Raw Chapter No. 002 "Trust isn't built with passwords. It's built with consistency." Every couple has a different philosophy when it comes to phones. Some know every password. Some believe certain areas should remain off limits. Neither are inherently right or wrong. But what intrigues me isn't the phone, it's what the request exposes. Sometimes when people say, "If you have nothing to hide, give me your phone," they mean... "Help me feel safe." Other times when someone says,

Raw Chapter No. 001 "Some conversations don't end when people walk away. They end when we decide they no longer deserve space in our minds." I've learned the toughest lessons don't always come with a sense of closure. We often trick ourselves into believing if we could just talk to them one more time...hear them explain...hear them say they're sorry THEN we can move forward. But life isn't fair, and doesn't always allow us that little grace. Some people leave. Some people lie